Dec. 27, 2020

"Go Home" to Yourself

Hollywood teaches us a romantic tale of what perfect love is.  What we see in the movies is not real life.  Seeking someone to "complete" you will keep you forever feeling "incomplete".

When we seek externally, we are searching for someone to fill our void.  We are forfeiting ourselves, thinking a stranger can give us ourselves back.  

When you're looking outside yourself for someone, it is resulting from a disconnection from Source.  It is not another person you seek, as no one can give you your missing pieces.  You are seeking your Oneness and connection with Source, but have confused it for the "one".  There is no one out there to complete us, only Source can do that, because with Source we are already complete.  There is no one out there who exists for us.  There is nothing to be gained from anyone (to fill our void), as no one can give us anything (to fill our void).  It is no one's responsibility to "be" anything to or for us.   

Everything we need, we already possess.

When we externalize our power, by giving ourselves to someone in the hopes they will witness us, validate us, and return us to ourselves, we are keeping ourselves trapped in the very dynamic that we're trying to remedy.  We want to heal this feeling of missing something, but we're looking in the wrong place, and therefore will always be "missing" something.

When you find yourself in this situation, the best course of action is to "go home" to yourself.  Take a deep breath, sink in to your heart, and feel your connection to Source, to Oneness.  The treasure lies within.

But it's not safe in there!  I don't like myself, which is why I'm looking for someone to ease my pain and to love me.

Point taken.  But if you don't like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to like you?  If you don't love yourself, how can anyone love you?  How can you love anyone if you don't love yourself first?  If you cannot unconditionally accept yourself, you never will anyone else.  You must love yourself first.

We've been lied to about what's real in this world.  As long as we allow the lullaby to keep us asleep, we'll never break out of this pattern, this structure that binds us to the belief that we're insufficient. 

Once you realize there's no missing part of you that can be retrieved from anyone else, you'll stop putting all your stock in someone else to fill your void and "save" you.  Truthfully, putting this onus on someone else is energetic abuse.  What goes out comes back, so it's best to be your own gatekeeper and be mindful of the tragic, fatalistic need we project onto others.

No one can give us anything.  Other than a learning experience.  But our healing, our retrieving of our missing pieces, can only come from within.

It is safe for you to "go home" to yourself.